Why What You Say (and Think) Matters More Than You Know
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you could take on the world? Or, on the flip side, left one feeling completely drained? That’s the power of words in action. Language isn’t just how we communicate—it’s how we shape our reality.
Whether you’re hyping yourself up in the mirror before a big day or offering a few kind words to a friend who’s struggling, the words you choose matter. They matter more than we often give them credit for.
Let’s dive into how and why language—especially positive language—holds so much power and how you can start using it to your advantage.
Words Are More Than Sound—They’re Energy
Words carry vibration. That may sound a bit woo-woo, but stay with me. When you speak, you’re not just making sounds; you’re expressing thoughts, emotions, and intention. Neuroscientists have found that language can actually shape brain function and even alter our neural pathways.
When you say something kind to yourself or someone else, it triggers the release of feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. On the flip side, negative language can activate the amygdala—the brain’s fear center—and release stress hormones like cortisol.
In other words, your words can literally change your brain chemistry. That’s huge.
The Words We Say to Ourselves Are the Most Powerful
Think about the voice in your head. Is it kind? Encouraging? Supportive? Or is it critical, harsh, and doubting?
The way you speak to yourself—your self-talk—is a direct reflection of your beliefs. And here’s the kicker: the brain doesn’t distinguish much between external words and internal ones. It reacts the same way to “You’re such an idiot” whether someone else says it or you say it to yourself.
But here’s the good news: You can change your internal narrative. And when you do, your external world starts to shift too.
The Science Backs It Up
Positive language doesn’t just feel better—it performs better.
Studies have shown that using positive language can:
- Improve problem-solving under pressure
- Strengthen relationships
- Increase motivation and resilience
- Even improve physical health by reducing stress-related inflammation
One study, published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, found that people who regularly used positive words had better heart health and lower rates of depression. You can explore more research like this through the University of Pennsylvania’s Positive Psychology Center, a treasure trove of scientific work on how language, mindset, and emotion intersect.
Rewriting the Script: How to Start Using Words for Power
So, how can you begin to use language to your advantage? Here are a few quick and simple (but powerful) shifts:
- Replace “I have to” with “I get to.”
→ “I have to go to work” becomes “I get to go to work.” Notice the change in energy? - Catch and reframe negative self-talk.
→ Instead of “I always mess things up,” try “I’m still learning, and I’m making progress.” - Use affirmations that feel true-ish.
If “I am unstoppable” feels like too big a leap, go with “I’m learning to trust myself more each day.” - Speak life into others.
Your words can be someone else’s turning point. A simple, sincere “I believe in you” can go a long way.
Bottom Line: Words Shape Your World
Your words can heal or hurt, build up or break down. They can inspire courage, restore hope, and create connection. But most importantly—they’re always available to you. You don’t need money, a platform, or perfect timing. Just intention and a little self-awareness.
“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”
— Mother Teresa
So the next time you’re talking—to yourself or someone else—pause. Choose your words like they matter.
Because they do. GO BE GREAT!
